Apr 21 2017

BDSM is Not My Source for Life.

I could hear the questions and yearning in the tone of his voice. He wasn’t sure what he wanted but he thought I might be the answer. He’d been searching, had his fantasies and I seemed safe enough for him to try them out with me. So he could find himself…find what worked and what didn’t.

There was a time when this intrigued me and I was wiling to take a man down that rabbit hole just for the exploration of the journey and what treasures may be waiting. I’m a writer and getting inside a man’s heart, soul, mind and body fed my writer’s hunger. It was a good journey and I value the men that let me into their deepest secrets and fantasies. They enriched my life and my way of looking and responding to a man. My soul has deepened with more insight than before.

But no longer do those needs pull on this heart. For a season I fed from that table of male hunger and curiosity. But it was only a passing season. Serving a purpose in my life long journey and growth. Men will always pull on my hunger but the menu I’m ordering from now is modest in size and offerings. My palate has become more discerning for those who are journeying down the same path I find myself on. More self discovery and deep calling unto deep.

BDSM is NOT my source for life. Nor should it be anyone else’s!  It should only be a spicy ingredient that brings joyful color to a life already grounded and whole.

Bondage & Impact play shouldn’t be an alternative to real therapy. But an avenue to the release of endorphin’s and a method to break down long standing concrete walls. Ending in some amazing aftercare and warm loving.  Just some thoughts…..

Regardless where one’s kink lies in the overall picture of the sexual alternative life…understanding that ones source of life comes from within themselves and not from any lifestyle or person playing a role in their life should be understood.

Too many times I’ve been sought out as a therapist for those wanting someone else to bring forth answers only they can answer themselves. Find for themselves. Discover for themselves.

Lately I’ve read of the disappointment of others who thought they would find answers to the questions in their souls in the midst of this lifestyle. Not realizing they have only traded one arena filled with their own thoughts and taunting demons for another. There they stand with the same patterns of thinking expecting different results.

I love this alternative life…it’s freedom… its opportunities to explore with those who know themselves and desire to walk into a dark room and discover more. There is nothing better than full transparency and trust from one who is whole.

And that kind of encounter continues to feed my soul.

The intoxicating beat for life that lives in my heart searches for those who have an awakened life pouring from the well springs of their being. Fearless ones because they are acquainted with the source of life that lives within them. One that no one can take away. Bright souls who use this lifestyle as only a tool to dig deeper within themselves.

To those who have lost their way in this life and feel forgotten, disappointed……the answers and validation you have searched for have never been in this arena. BDSM is not your source for life. Only a playground and tool.

If you stand still for a few moments you can feel the shifting and turning of the world as we knew it before changing on its axis. Transformation is in the wind.

Face into that wind and let it blow away what holds you back.

Embrace, forgive and love you so you can embrace, forgive and love others.

Find your source for life.

Take Care of Yourself!  It’s the simple things that tells us we care.
Like warm socks!  😉

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Apr 17 2017

e[lust] edition #93 ~ Enjoy

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Welcome to Elust 93

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #94 Start with the rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

A dress to die for

Pushing Past



~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Kink lite, Kink life


~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

The Contract

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!


Erotic Fiction

The Contract
Speaking Truth to a Submissive Heart
Subjugate U

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Jerking off to be banned under Texas bill
That Time Steve Bannon Destroyed Me
How to program a sex robot

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Effortless Connections & Harmonious Energy


A Love Affair, From A to Z: “A” – Always
Scouting: A Lusty Limericks

Erotic Non-Fiction

Conflict(ed) part 2
It’s All About The Feet
Oral Birthday Fun ~ The Glorious Sixty-Ninth!
I Will Do…
The subtle threesome


Eroticon 2017 – I Herd U Lieks It

Body Talk and Sexual Health

photo shoots past and future
Elust 88

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Apr 10 2017

Come and Darken My Door

When life seems a game. The sensation of chess pieces moved strategically across a board and whispers of those watching heard in the distance as my reactions from life are judged and felt in my body and expressed across my face. Those times when life is too busy and I need the jolt of being ME and only ME brought into focus…

Come and darken my door.

When my body has fallen into robotic mode; reacting in timing with duties that must be perform to keep business and deadlines moving to accomplished a goal. When even the blowing of a breeze against my skin doesn’t stop my activity and make me breathe, take a breath to remember who I really am…

Come and darken my door.

Meet me in my sleep where I’m finally quiet and my body is repairing from the demands of life.

Remind me of the power and deep predatory need that simmers in wait beneath the service being poured out during the light of day.

Fill my doorway with your dark brooding presence that draws me from my bed and places my hand upon the mutating door handle, feeling the force of your hunger transforming it’s structure from the other side.

Awaken the slumbering beast within me with the scent of your dark primal desires.

Release the fire of true life woven throughout my cells and DNA fully capable of feeding and nourishing every fiber of my being.

Stand before me, aching, famished, denied of authentic touch and connection. Your eyes overflowing with the cold emptiness life can bring.

Stand before me still strong, full of knowing your presence in my life and who you are inside. The beast living daily in your breast needing a place of rest. The beast torn and scarred from battle wrapped in a beauty of weariness that ignites and restores the fire in my soul. My hunger feeding off your fatigue and transparency as you lay your existence at my feet.

I will come alive at the smell of your masculinity that pours through your emptiness. The intoxicating feel of your flesh against my flesh and the whispers of your blacken ache washing through me, reminding me again who I am.

Close your eyes for a moment in your time of deprivation. Feel the rise of your spirit to the sound of my call. Let the heat from my need be the path you must follow.

Come….Drawn from my soul calling out to yours.

Come and darken my door.


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Apr 03 2017

The Satisfyer ~ Toy Review!

The Satisfyer Pro, Satisfyer Pro Penguin & Satisfyer 2
Warning!  Your Clit can possibly become addicted!  😉

A few weeks ago I received an email from Sally, Team contact for The Satisfyer Family product line out of Bielefeld, Germany. They asked to send me a few samples of their new product line for free to review. Seeing how I’m in-between qualified good lovers at my disposal for the moment, the timing was perfect! I was already in the ‘self reflective…self repairing’ mode so having the opportunity to experiment with some brand new toys for free and potentially experience some mind blowing orgasms in the process sounded like a gift from heaven itself!

This product provides intensive pressure waves and tingling pulsation while it literally sucks on your clitoris! It offers 11 programs building from soft to intense and I have to admit I never was able to make it past the 3rd level without climaxing!

My clit is very sensitive and I was leery at first on how she would handle all that sucking. I can count on one hand the number of men who have been able to bring me to orgasm orally and have found most lack intuition and knowledge of the female anatomy to understand how we ‘get off’. I have suffered a few times with being swollen by an aggressive mouth! So I went into this with caution and care.

The Satisfyer Pro and Satisfyer Pro Penguin come with a magnetic USB charging cable….The Satisfyer 2 takes two AAA batteries. All are waterproof and the silicone heads can easily be removed, cleaned and replaced at any time. ( Retail packs of five new heads are available. )

I use a lot of coconut oil as lube. I love the slick feel and organic smell. Plus it’s good for your body! So my toys get pretty messy. Which for me is great because I love messy play!  With all three products no matter how messy it got, no oil was able to get into the interior of the product, which made it hygienic, safe and easy to clean.

After a week of thorough experimentation and examination…..***Smiling big right now***….. Here are my findings……..


Satisfyer Pro Penguin: This is a quiet little gem that would fit in your purse. The silicone head is small but it still provides great pleasure and fits nicely in the palm of your hand. A toy to have conveniently next to your bed for those impromptu lazy moments of self love.

Satisfyer 2: What I love about this product is that it has up and down arrows on the program button so if you find one level a bit too intense you can go down to a softer level without turning it off and starting again. I’d like to see that feature on all of the products. This is a bit noisier but then I like sound and vibration in my play …so the noise doesn’t bother me. The head is bigger than the Penguin so covers more area for pleasure.

Satisfyer Pro: This is the most powerful with a large head and took some getting use to. As I mentioned, my clit was leery of that much direct contact and sucking! I approached this product gingerly and was thankful I had the other products to build up my tolerance. I went back and forth between all three products on which one was my favorite. They all had features that were enjoyable. But after a week of thorough experimentation and examination, the Satisfyer Pro became my favorite!

Once my clit was use to the toy I was able to spend more time building up, edging and loving the large silicone head that was attached. To me this toy felt the closest to a human mouth. It’s louder than the other two but only when you lift it off the skin and move it to another location. Once it’s sucking….it hums with delight to my ears. I was able to get lost in the memories of some of the best oral orgasms I’ve had and imagined the mouth and head of those lovers buried between my legs as the orgasm was building.

FYI: All toys are great if you’re in a hurry and just need a quick Fix.  They will all get you there in a matter of minutes!

I highly recommend these products for your self love pleasure. But do warn you …finding that same level of satisfaction from a human may be hard to find. Could be a great learning tool for those who want to learn!

Products can be found on Adam & Eve, Amazon and other retail outlets. Google is your friend!

Thank you Sally and the Team at  The Satisfyer Family for the opportunity to review this product.

~ Vista

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Mar 30 2017

Effortless Connections … Harmonious Energy at Play.

Harmony and peace…where the natural state of man’s energy is wrapped in transparency and vulnerability… existing without fear. Bathed in the knowledge of confidence and acceptance, first of yourself and then of others.

Why do humans search in realms for greater realities, extreme activities and alternative sexual connections? I believe we are looking for something that will finally rip off the mask that was placed on us years ago in order to survive in a society that ran contrary to the soul that beat within us. Self preservation prevails as we try to fit in… be accepted. In that journey we lose the opening to our being. So we look to others in sometimes extreme relationships and connections to find the edge of that mask, that covering and rip it off leaving us exposed. We search for those beings whose energy will flow effortlessly with ours.

When you run into that person through your journey… when you find one that intuitively knows and feels the wave length of your energy and effortlessly flows in harmony with yours it almost seems foreign. We’ve grown use to dealing with the diversity of the masses, unmatched relationships, the rubbing raw of intrusive energies against us, that we almost miss that soothing flow of one who fits every grove in our tapestry. Because it’s unfamiliar our reaction may be to not pursue the health that may be calling out to our soul. Our mind finds itself at odds with our heart.

It’s vital that we know and understand the force that lives within ourselves; what depletes us and what builds us or else we blindly, through ignorance, remain strapped to an emotional carnival ride we are calling life.

When we understand the polarity of our own energy we will understand that we have choices everyday to keep learning how to stay balanced and grow in health and strength. In order to live a life well managed it’s best to keep ourselves fed and nourished through healthy harmonious relationships in every area of life that effect the decisions we make daily.

Our minds effect the mind of others. Thoughts and emotions heard and received radically race through our bodies. Genes become activated or repressed. Our DNA, regulated by our emotions. The perception of life seen through our thoughts or felt through the mind of another. Our energy heightened or diminished.

An effortless connection to me is as a drink of water that is soothing in temperature, filled with the right combination of ingredients (molecules, minerals ) that our mind, body and spirit sigh with a sense of welcome and thankfulness for the rejuvenation of our full self. An awakening from an unknown sleep. A dancing of happy molecules, cells, your DNA starting to rush and fill your whole being with excitement. The energy of Life!

I’ve felt the harmony of emotions with another. Uncanny intuition that released a word in due season.

In a time where words seem to have a hidden agenda and purpose to manipulate destinies, I’m thankful for the words that effortlessly flow into my life from those with golden hearts and amplified energy that lights a room. They remind me of the basic need of humanity.

To love, To touch, To feel, To connect.


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Mar 20 2017

Embedded Connections and Time Standing Still

The rope slides easily through my slender fingers as I move methodically around your bare frame…flesh brushing against flesh. My arousal builds with the slick feel of the strands of woven nylon already making its mark against your skin. You fold into me and I smell your surrender; the letting go of your thoughts, goals, and the future of what lies ahead. All that stands between us is the now, the present. Your heart beating and finding the rhythm of my own. Your body moving into mine. Our hearts rhythmically dancing in tandem.

My sweaty bare leg rubs against your muscled thigh and the dripping from my cunt leaves a trail against it’s strength. You moan as my wetness seeps into your soul.

My hand travels up the back of your neck and grabs a scruff of hair, pulls back, exposing the length of your throat. My mouth finds the salty taste along your taunt flesh and wet lips land upon your ear. My soft, warm breathing making your knees buckle.

Your sigh and deep moans wrap around me like a heated summer breeze possessing my heart. My hand finds the hardness of your seeping cock as another ‘aaahhhhh’ falls from your lips.

With each move and placement of the rope I purpose to imprint upon your flesh and embed into your heart the connection of our souls.

My own quickened soul full with the rapture of your heart beating along with mine.

How I wish time could stand still.

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Mar 15 2017

e[lust] edition #92 ~ Enjoy

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Photo courtesy of Steeled Snake

Welcome to Elust 92

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #93 Start with the rules, come back April 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Feeling Forced

NEEDY – a black obsession



~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

“One Man Is Not Enough For You.”


~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Safewords in Kink Life and in Kink Fiction

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!


Erotic Fiction

The Anatomy Lesson
Town whore

Erotic Non-Fiction

The good girl pledge
Good Boy
From Headache to Clit Ache
Daytime: A married Valentines fantasy
Unlocking the Man…with Pieces of Me.

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Three’s Company
I hate the “One Size Fits All” approach
Safewords in Kink Life and in Kink Fiction
How great would it be if…


Roadside Stand: A Lusty Limerick

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Dirty Money


Looking back at our Eroticon Weekend

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Waiting and waiting and waiting



Elust 88

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Mar 11 2017

Tattooing your Mind.

I desire to tattoo your mind.

To leave my mark on your soul, your fears, your heart and your pain.

I need to know if you’re authentic. Do you bleed the same fervent passion inside that you declare on the outside?

Please understand….I don’t need you because I’m lonely or need you to bring me comfort or security or to confirm my self worth. I have invested time into my heart and the ground I stand on is solid. Solid enough to hold me through any storm.

I’m emotionally, mentally wired for peaceful times of solitude. Would you understand my need to be quiet?  If even for days?

I search for a deeper level of love beyond the shallow, the drama and even the lust. I need you whole…complete in your own identity. At peace with the void that may still hunger for authentic connection. That hunger and angst reminding you that your heart is still able to feel, want and has not become jaded.

I ache for a relationship that is intense but healthy, devoted yet free, supportive but not smothering.

I need you intuitive, passionate, emphatic, sincere and fearless when it comes to living life.

I want to be seen, heard, understood, valued and loved for who I am as I will bring these same gifts to you.

I don’t want to hide, pretend, suppress or change who I am. I like who I am. I celebrate who I am.

I will not ‘put up’ with you but celebrate you and all that involves your very being.

I can not ‘fix’ you nor do I desire to try. But my presence and love will heal you. For life can be cruel and love is meant to cover pain and bring healing.

I want my soul to seep deeply into yours and  yours into mine.

I want the fire to burn hot enough to tattoo this love upon your mind.


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